Learn to heal, grow, and protect yourself.
As living, breathing humans, we all have an authentic and unique perspective. We all need clean water, healthy food, and a safe environment. Everyone has mental hang-ups and challenging relationships. Getting lost in the everyday details, problems, and drama is virtually impossible to avoid. That’s why we need help getting back on track to create joy and find opportunities for healing and growth.
Like the lines in a coloring book, boundaries allow us to see ourselves more clearly. Instead of flailing in fear or spinning out from stress, we can begin to distinguish ourselves as a whole, healing individuals with complicated backgrounds and a wide range of emotions at work. We are greater than what we’ve been told. We are more than the fear and worry that sometimes keep us going in circles.
“We are made of star stuff. We are a way for the Cosmos to know itself. We are here to explore the Cosmos on a ship of the imagination.”
Carl Sagan
This class is based on a book, an analogy that looks at life through the four systems of a ship; You’re the Boat: Charting a Course toward a life worth looking forward to includes chapters on the guidance system, logistics, propulsion, and navigation, each one illustrating the different parts of your life. (Download the book for free in the library).
I’m writing a new, expanded version titled Happy Home, Healthy Life, logic for Charting a Course to a life worth living. I aim to have the first draft ready by the end of 2023. Writing is sometimes a lonely process, so I enjoy hosting the Boundaries classes to connect with others. While I’m not an expert on boundaries, I have learned some things. This class lets me share what I’ve discovered while learning from the other students. The main goal is to make a real connection while we learn alongside each other.
Relieve stress and recognize your priorities.
This class is available to anyone interested in healing, learning, and growing. You will love this class if you enjoy deep conversations about life and soul development!
“Let me start off by saying I LOVE this program! Within days, I used what I learned with Pam to confront someone who had been creating havoc in my life for years. The results were immediate and positive! Ever since then I’ve enjoyed an increase in my confidence and personal awareness. I even enjoyed doing the homework and worksheets because they helped me see my priorities and get my life organized. I would highly recommend this coaching program to anyone who wants to stop wasting their time and start taking control of their life.”
Jill S.
The problem is we haven’t been taught to know ourselves. We were expected to be “good” and follow the rules. Period.
Without boundaries, we lack the tools to recognize or defend ourselves. We can’t trust what we can’t see, and if we can’t trust ourselves, we can’t trust anyone else. When we feel vulnerable and anxious, our entire life becomes a struggle. Getting anywhere is frustrating, like driving with one foot on the brake and the other on the gas.
That’s why we need to recognize ourselves through our boundaries.
- Physical
- Material
- Mental
- Emotional
- Sexual
- Spiritual
- Temporal
- Virtual
Each boundary helps us to ground ourselves in current reality. With essential relationships and responsibilities to protect, we look to our boundaries to focus on healing ourselves and caring for those we love. Starting with our physical bodies, our thoughts, and emotions enable us to recognize our feelings. Looking at our schedule, we see who and what we make time for, including friends, family, and tuning into our Sacred. Using our best intentions and self-awareness, we can improve our health and strengthen our relationships, creating a life worth living.
Using what is “appropriate” to steer toward a life worth living.
In 2008, I was homeschooling my son and packing for a year-long adventure to live in Brazil with my family. After three months, I was feeling anxious and scared. Asking, “How am I supposed to get through this!?” this analogy came to mind.
“Attitude is like the rudder on a ship. As long as we keep our attitude adjusted ‘appropriately’, we can get where we need to go. But if it gets stuck, we just go in circles frustrating ourselves and everyone else around us.”
You’re the Boat: Charting a course toward a life worth looking forward to.
After months of being lost and scared, this You’re the Boat analogy taught me to stop focusing on fear. It was making me sick mentally, physically, and emotionally. The analogy showed me to steer the “rudder of my attitude“ toward love. I started paying attention to taking better care of myself, my family, and my community. (There’s a lot more to that story. Click the link to download the free book).
In 2012 I published the book using the four systems of a ship; guidance, logistics, navigation, and propulsion systems as the chapters.
One step at a time
Starting on pg. 36, I wrote what I learned by asking online experts and friends. I condensed that knowledge into four steps and printed it as The Boundaries Cheat Sheet on the complimentary bookmark.
- Start with the end in mind.
- Let everyone know what’s happening.
- Enforce the rules.
- Be patient.
For the past ten years, I’ve used this Boat analogy to continue adjusting my attitude “appropriately.” There’s been a lot to learn, which is the whole point of personal development. Writing this book and Living as a Boat for over a decade has taught me that healing, joy, and soul development take time, intentions, and focus.
After reading books and talking to people about seeing life through the four systems of the Boat analogy, I created the eight boundaries to help everyone (including me) better understand and protect themselves. In 2022, I started offering the Boundaries class.
How does it work?
In his 20s, my husband taught beginner snow skiing. He quickly learned a valuable lesson. Telling his students, “Watch out for that tree!” caused them to aim straight toward it with disastrous results.
Fixating our fears and worries does precisely the same thing. We aim toward the problem while simultaneously convincing ourselves we’re too small to fix or stop it. That’s why we need to expand our thinking and find tools for growth and understanding.
We all have time to work with. Bodies to carry us around. Thoughts to direct our influence and emotions to sail upon. Our Captains go by many different names. However, it’s only our calling to it that counts. We recognize that calling within our heart’s hope, thoughts, determination, and strength within our spine. We create possibilities for a better life by focusing that energy on healing solutions.
Simple doesn’t mean easy, but it’s an excellent place to start fresh.
Let’s look at the details.
We begin this two-hour class with grounding exercises, including the Stretch, and discuss each boundary. As we fill out the priorities worksheets, we share stories about our lives, discussing the difference between judgment and discernment and the importance of white space. We review phrases that help find the right words to set healthy boundaries. Most of our time is devoted to discussing real-life situations and finding resolutions.
Like Vegas, whatever we discuss in Boundaries class, stays between us. We all put our phones on silent to honor the sacred space of our energy and conversation. Everyone is invited to contribute to the discussion, sharing valuable lessons and hard-won wisdom.
“Attended an amazing class today. Do yourself a favor and sign up for Boundaries class at RHA. Pam’s energy is so wonderful and amazing, you’ll be glad you invested in yourself. I promise.”
Margaret S.
You already know why you want to take this class.
Whether you’re a lifelong student looking to expand your perspective, on a healing path, or recovering from a difficult relationship trying to find solutions, this Boundaries class and Boat analogy helps to see yourself beyond the thoughts and opinions of others; this class enables you to consider your next steps in a safe space. It lets you know where you are to get wherever you need to go.
The good news is you already have hope for a better future working in your favor. Following that spark to connect with your Captain can help you share what you’ve learned with your people. Talking about what’s bothering you instead of bottling it up can lead to deeper connections, healthier relationships, and happier life.
I highly recommend Boundaries & Protection and Goldmining the Shadows by Pixie Lighthorse. With one-page chapters, these books offer relatable advice and language prompts. I love the guidance and compassionate wisdom in these books, and I highly recommend them. (This is not an affiliate link. I’m just a huge fan!)
You’ll thank yourself.
If you’re tired of wasting your precious time and energy and curious about where to start making changes, this class is for you!
- Release negative energy by recognizing the stories going through your head are not the truth.
- Adjust your focus from fear toward love, healing, and healthy relationships.
- Learn your eight boundaries to see yourself and your life beyond what others think, say, or do.
- Develop more confidence by caring for what is yours and letting go of the rest.
- Use your priorities to steer your time and energy and create a life worth living.
Walking out of this class, you’ll feel more confident and capable of getting what you need. Over time and with consistent attention, you can look forward to feeling better fast.
Pam creates a safe space for getting unstuck and moving closer to my dreams. Her program opened my eyes to a new way of looking at how I take care of myself – or in my case, how I wasn’t taking care of myself in two crucial ways! As a performing artist, it’s important that I keep myself mentally, physically, and emotionally ready for whatever comes my way. Pam showed me (with love, of course), how I was “missing the boat” with my health and well-being. In just two hours, I came away with a new perspective, and specific tools to make a major course correction in my life and work. Without Pam’s insights, it may have been years before I saw how I was neglecting my own needs – and ignoring my dreams in the process. Now, I’m ready to sail the high seas regardless of the storms that life may throw at me!
Lisa M.
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xoxo Pam