To create a life worth living.

Without firm boundaries and clear limits on our time and attention, we lack the handles we need to grab ahold of ourselves. With so many tasks and distractions, it’s easy to feel like we’re on a hamster wheel of responsibilities with no way to stop. Add in the drama of the world around us it’s no wonder we’re feeling overwhelmed and anxious about the future.

How do we create a life worth living? The first step to knowing how to protect ourselves is recognizing what is ours, to begin with. That’s why we need to learn our boundaries.

  • Physical
  • Material
  • Mental
  • Emotional
  • Sexual
  • Spiritual
  • Temporal
  • Virtual

Like the lines in a coloring book, knowing our boundaries allows us to step back from the stories going through our heads to see who we are and what’s important to us. Instead of wasting our time and energy on fear and distraction, we can simplify our understanding and direct our attention. We can take the time to ground ourselves in the elements of reality and focus our strength on improving our relationships.

Click here to sign up online for the Boundaries class Saturday, July 9, from 4:30 – 6:30 pm at Rochester Holistic Arts.

What boundaries?!

As kids, most of us learned to “be good,” follow the rules, and everything will work out. Of course, we find out this isn’t true, but we don’t have the tools to recognize or defend ourselves without boundaries. We have no choice but to look outside ourselves for feedback, waiting for someone else’s permission, approval, or protection. Living at the mercy of other people’s opinions, we lack confidence in ourselves and hope for the future, causing anxiety, depression, stress, and unhealthy relationships.

Using what is “appropriate” to steer toward a life worth living.

Attitude is like the rudder on a ship. As long as we keep our attitude adjusted ‘appropriately’, we can get where we need to go. But if it gets stuck, we just go in circles frustrating ourselves and everyone else around us.”

You’re the Boat: Charting a course toward a life worth looking forward to.

Every day we wake up telling ourselves the story of who we are and what matters to us. Typically, we exist somewhere between our bodies, thoughts, and emotions.

However, when we find ourselves stuck, lost, and frustrated, “going in circles,” we need tools to help us step back to get a clear picture of what we’re going through to get back on course.

That’s why knowing our boundaries is essential. It allows us to simplify a complicated world, to focus on who we are and what priorities are worthy of our attention.

You’re not alone.

While I’m not a boundaries expert, I have a lifetime of experience managing anxiety and taking care of my family. I’m offering this class, sharing what I’ve learned, to help you reduce stress and build healthy relationships with your friends and family. My goal is to be a good influence and make the world a better place. While I look forward to sharing my stories, the bulk of our discussion comes from you.

We begin this two-hour class with grounding exercises, including the Stretch. Then I introduce each boundary before we move on to fill out the priorities worksheets. When you can recognize the relationships you most value, where you need to make adjustments, and what deserves your attention, we’ll talk about the difference between judgment and discernment and the importance of white space when making decisions. Most of our time together is devoted to discussing our real-life situations and looking for resolutions.

You already know why you want to take this class. Something in life is causing you stress, pain, drama, or all of the above. You want to protect your energy and resources and find the right words to define what you need. You want to find clarity to ask for what you want. You’re hoping to get on the same page with your people and resolve your differences to create a life worth living.

Fortunately, you already have the desire, focus, and hope for a better future working in your favor. Understanding your boundaries better helps you share what you’ve learned with your loved ones. It allows you to find opportunities for deep connections in your relationships and create a life worth living.

I highly recommend Boundaries & Protection and Goldmining the Shadows by Pixie Lighthorse. With one-page chapters, they offer relatable advice and language prompts to inspire fruitful conversations with the people in your life. I love the guidance and compassionate wisdom in these books, and I highly recommend you pick them up, (This is not an affiliate link. I’m just a huge fan!)

Call (248) 330-9569 to reserve your spot for Boundaries Class or sign up online. You can also email me for details at pam Belding at g mail dot com.

“Attended an amazing class today. Do yourself a favor and sign up for Boundaries class at RHA. Pam’s energy is so wonderful and amazing, you’ll be glad you invested in yourself. I promise.”

Margaret S.

How does it work?

a middle aged white woman smiles at the camera holding a compass pointing to the four values that steer her ship.
I am holding my framed values compass. Kindness, beauty, harmony, education, expansion, and service to the greater good

My husband taught beginner snow skiing when he was in his 20s. He said it didn’t take long to realize he couldn’t tell his students, “Watch out for that tree!” Calling attention to the potential danger directed them straight toward their peril.

Our fears and worries do precisely the same thing. When we only focus on what’s freaking us out, we steer in a circle convincing ourselves we’re too small to fix the problem.

By paying attention to our boundaries and using love and strength to build the life we want to live, we focus on the power of our awareness and the energy of our desire to create a better life.

No one else can tell us what will make us happy. It’s up to us to decide what a beautiful life looks like and then get busy making it happen.

“Let me start off by saying I LOVE this program! Within days, I used what I learned with Pam to confront someone who had been creating havoc in my life for years. The results were immediate and positive! Ever since then I’ve enjoyed an increase in my confidence and personal awareness. I even enjoyed doing the homework and worksheets because they helped me see my priorities and get my life organized. I would highly recommend this coaching program to anyone who wants to stop wasting their time and start taking control of their life.”

Jill S.

You’ll thank yourself.

Problems, fear, and drama aren’t going away soon. If you’re sick and tired of wasting your precious time going in circles, this class is for you!

  • Recognize the stories going through your head are not the truth.
  • Learn your eight boundaries to expand your awareness and develop more confidence.
  • Adjust your focus appropriately to inspire healing and healthy relationships
  • Use your priorities to steer your time and energy to defend your attention.

Looking at the priorities within your boundaries, you build a path toward a happier existence for yourself and your Crew. Walking out of this class, you’ll feel more confident and capable of getting what you need. With time and attention, you’ll start feeling better fast.

If you’ve been asking yourself, “How am I supposed to get through this?!” this class is the answer.

Pam creates a safe space for getting unstuck and moving closer to my dreams. Her program opened my eyes to a new way of looking at how I take care of myself – or in my case, how I wasn’t taking care of myself in two crucial ways! As a performing artist, it’s important that I keep myself mentally, physically, and emotionally ready for whatever comes my way. Pam showed me (with love, of course), how I was “missing the boat” with my health and well-being. In just two hours, I came away with a new perspective, and specific tools to make a major course correction in my life and work. Without Pam’s insights, it may have been years before I saw how I was neglecting my own needs – and ignoring my dreams in the process. Now, I’m ready to sail the high seas regardless of the storms that life may throw at me!

Lisa M.

Sign up now.

Join me on Saturday, July 11, from 4:30 – 6:30 pm. The class price is $45 and includes the book, the worksheets, and plenty of time to discuss the benefits of wiggle room and values.

Click here to sign up online.

We meet in the Garden Studio at Rochester Holistic Arts, and space is limited. Call now to reserve your spot at (248) 330-9569.